Comments on: How do I get my family to stop buying so many toys for my kids? http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html Family Lifestyle with Children and Parenting Tue, 22 May 2012 00:27:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: E in SHO http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6826 E in SHO Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:26 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6826 i had the first grandchild for both sides of the family and wentt through he same thung. i had to explain to them that i understood that they did it out of love, BUT that she like your girls, didnt appreciate them. i asked tem to buy them things they NEEDED instead or to buy them more learning/creative toys instead. now i almost never have to buy clothes or art supplies. tell them that its gotten so bad that you have to donate and they may realize they are waisting their money. my alternative for them, besides material things was for them to deposit money into my girls savings accounts. i had the first grandchild for both sides of the family and wentt through he same thung. i had to explain to them that i understood that they did it out of love, BUT that she like your girls, didnt appreciate them. i asked tem to buy them things they NEEDED instead or to buy them more learning/creative toys instead. now i almost never have to buy clothes or art supplies. tell them that its gotten so bad that you have to donate and they may realize they are waisting their money.

my alternative for them, besides material things was for them to deposit money into my girls savings accounts.

]]> By: curious me http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6827 curious me Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:26 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6827 Enjoy it. Have you heard of a eBay? Make some money off of the extra things. Enjoy it. Have you heard of a eBay? Make some money off of the extra things.

]]> By: Jen http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6817 Jen Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6817 I would tell them that it's a nice thing they are doing but maybe cut it down to 2 toys and some clothes. Also mention that there are other kids out there who don't get any at holidays. Maybe talk them into donating for a good cause to the kids that do really need it. Your children are lucky but when there are so many toys and they don't cherish them it's time to give them away. I rotate my son's toys about every 6 months and give the toys he doesn't play with to good will. I would tell them that it’s a nice thing they are doing but maybe cut it down to 2 toys and some clothes. Also mention that there are other kids out there who don’t get any at holidays. Maybe talk them into donating for a good cause to the kids that do really need it. Your children are lucky but when there are so many toys and they don’t cherish them it’s time to give them away. I rotate my son’s toys about every 6 months and give the toys he doesn’t play with to good will.

]]> By: not_prfikt http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6818 not_prfikt Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6818 When you find the answer to this one, PLEASE let my family know. They go SOOOOOO overboard with it EVERY holiday. We have a small house and 4 kids. I tried to have them get the kids savings bonds, but that only lasted one or two years. Plus they bought them all a bunch of toys and clothes and said, "they can't play with savings bonds". I said, "they cannot pay for college with toys". Wish I had a better answer for you. Good luck though. When you find the answer to this one, PLEASE let my family know. They go SOOOOOO overboard with it EVERY holiday. We have a small house and 4 kids. I tried to have them get the kids savings bonds, but that only lasted one or two years. Plus they bought them all a bunch of toys and clothes and said, "they can’t play with savings bonds". I said, "they cannot pay for college with toys". Wish I had a better answer for you. Good luck though.

]]> By: greeneyes http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6819 greeneyes Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6819 why does it bother you so much?? I mean it sounds like they really care about your youngins'!! Just be glad that you dont have to buy them!! why does it bother you so much?? I mean it sounds like they really care about your youngins’!! Just be glad that you dont have to buy them!!

]]> By: leahazgrl http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6820 leahazgrl Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6820 i asked my exinlaws who are crazy about buying toys to pay for activities for the kids Sarah is reall interested in yoga for her birthday would you like to pay for some classes etc i also told them it was important for my children to appriecate the reason for the holiday and didnt want them focusing on gifts and asked them to limit the # of gifts at christmas each child gets 7 gifts also you can have them buy savings bonds if my kids do get too many toys i explain to them that they are so luck to have grandparents that can afford to buy gifts and ask if we could donate any of the new toys to kids who arent so lucky--last christmas my 2 girls each recieved big lego type doll houses we donated one to the women shelter and they kept the 2nd to play with i asked my exinlaws who are crazy about buying toys to pay for activities for the kids Sarah is reall interested in yoga for her birthday would you like to pay for some classes etc
i also told them it was important for my children to appriecate the reason for the holiday and didnt want them focusing on gifts and asked them to limit the # of gifts at christmas each child gets 7 gifts
also you can have them buy savings bonds
if my kids do get too many toys i explain to them that they are so luck to have grandparents that can afford to buy gifts and ask if we could donate any of the new toys to kids who arent so lucky–last christmas my 2 girls each recieved big lego type doll houses we donated one to the women shelter and they kept the 2nd to play with

]]> By: blackadder77511 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6821 blackadder77511 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6821 maybe ask for seeds or plants. the kids can learn resposibility while being rewarded with a veggie or flower all their very own =) maybe ask for seeds or plants. the kids can learn resposibility while being rewarded with a veggie or flower all their very own =)

]]> By: viewfromtheinside http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6822 viewfromtheinside Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6822 In our case it wasn't so much a problem with the kids as it was a problem with my parents. LOL We have established a $25 per child per birthday and Christmas limit and no gift exchange among adults. My husband and I are the enforcers of the rule and we established it after my parents began constantly complaining that they were spending too much on the kids and on family gifts. At first we held back trying to let my parents take their own responsibility for the spending. When that didn't work and my parents kept complaining, we moved to telling the kids that they were responsible to pick toys that were not over a certain amount. It really was too much to ask of children. Now we play the bad guy role and enforce the limit. I have to admit to being a little frustrated that my parents complained and still do not take the responsibility themselves. It is their money and they should be the ones not spend more than they can be happy with longterm. The kids have made the adjustment to our rule and Mom and Dad seem relieved. My husband and I can live with being the bad guy and have determined that we will take the responsibility ourselves when the time comes to be grandparents. If we spend more than we are happy with long term, it is our own fault not theirs. In our case it wasn’t so much a problem with the kids as it was a problem with my parents. LOL

We have established a $25 per child per birthday and Christmas limit and no gift exchange among adults. My husband and I are the enforcers of the rule and we established it after my parents began constantly complaining that they were spending too much on the kids and on family gifts.

At first we held back trying to let my parents take their own responsibility for the spending. When that didn’t work and my parents kept complaining, we moved to telling the kids that they were responsible to pick toys that were not over a certain amount. It really was too much to ask of children. Now we play the bad guy role and enforce the limit.

I have to admit to being a little frustrated that my parents complained and still do not take the responsibility themselves. It is their money and they should be the ones not spend more than they can be happy with longterm. The kids have made the adjustment to our rule and Mom and Dad seem relieved. My husband and I can live with being the bad guy and have determined that we will take the responsibility ourselves when the time comes to be grandparents. If we spend more than we are happy with long term, it is our own fault not theirs.

]]> By: dr's mom http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6823 dr's mom Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6823 Just tell them to stop buying all the toys. When birthday's or christmas rolls around tell them they need clothes. Make sure you tell them the sizes and what they need. If they want to add a couple of SMALL toys, then ok. Do not be nice about it, just tell them. If they get the toys then take them back and get what you want for them. Just tell them to stop buying all the toys. When birthday’s or christmas rolls around tell them they need clothes. Make sure you tell them the sizes and what they need. If they want to add a couple of SMALL toys, then ok. Do not be nice about it, just tell them. If they get the toys then take them back and get what you want for them.

]]> By: seatonrsp http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html/comment-page-1#comment-6824 seatonrsp Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:28:25 +0000 http://familyhit.com/happyfamily/family-parenting/how-do-i-get-my-family-to-stop-buying-so-many-toys-for-my-kids.html#comment-6824 Encourage them get a couple of gifts and set a limit. If you still have too many toys, you can always put some in storage and rotate them so the old becomes new. You can make some extra money by having a garage sale every so often. My mom just buys my son clothes, which he always needs. Encourage them get a couple of gifts and set a limit. If you still have too many toys, you can always put some in storage and rotate them so the old becomes new. You can make some extra money by having a garage sale every so often. My mom just buys my son clothes, which he always needs.

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